Saturday, February 13, 2010

"Frances" By Viky

Estate 1999. Un piccolo bar in una piccola piazza di una piccola città sul mare. Al tavolo , sola ,prendeva un caffè o una granita: alta, abbronzata, i corti capelli bianchi.
Ci scambiamo un saluto un sorriso una battuta. Entriamo subito in confidenza e parliamo di tutto : figli, mariti, film, libri.
E' simpatica, gentile, generosa, sensibile, estroversa.
Ci troviamo bene e quando devo iniziare una lunga ,fastidiosa cura per i miei denti, decido di farlo a Roma così abbiamo modo di vederci ancora, dato che lei nel frattempo ha preso un appartamento in via Monserrato, vicino all'isola Tiberina dove mi devo recare regolarmente. E' l'accasione per tornare un po' ragazze, bighellonare tra i vicoli, andare a cinema, un concerto. La seduta dal dentista è solo una parentesi fastidiosa e poi via tra i banchi del mercato di campo de' fiori, in un bar per un gelato, una tazza di cioccolata...
Passa qualche anno poi tutto cambia : il compagno di Frances si perde per un'altra donna e lei deve tornare in America per affrontare avvilenti battaglie legali. Non perde la sua grinta anche se la sua vita è diventata difficoltosa ,ha impegni gravosi da affrontare ed ha poco tempo per tornare in Italia.
Vado ancora regolarmente a Roma ma mi manca la sua compagnia , i suoi entusiasmi, la sua verve. Passo nei luoghi in cui giravamo insieme ridendo e penso a lei così lontana e diversamente impegnata. Mi manca.....spero non per molto ancora......

"Frances" by Vicky

Summer 1999. A small bar,in a small piazza, in a small city by the sea. At the table, alone, drinking a coffee or a granita: tall, tanned, with short white hair. We exchanged a greeting, a smile, a joke. We quickly become close friends and we talk about everything: children, husbands, film, and books.

She's likeable, kind, generous, sensitive, and outgoing.

We enjoy each other’s company, so when I start my long and fastidious cure for my teeth, I decide to do it in Rome so that we can see each other more often, being that in the meantime she has bought an apartment on via Di Monserrato, near Isola Tiberina where I have regular dental appointments. It’s my occasion to go back and be a girl, to loiter between the alleys, to go to the movies, to a concert. The dentist appointments are only an annoying parenthesis and then we go in and out between the market vendors of Campo de’ Fiori, in a bar for an ice cream, a cup of hot chocolate…

A few years later and everything changes: Frances’ partner gets lost to another woman and Frances must return to America in order to face disheartening legal battles. She doesn’t lose her mojo though, even if her life has become problematic; she has arduous engagements to face and has little time to spend in Italy.

I still have regular appointments in Rome but I miss her company, her various enthusiasms, her verve. I pass by the places we used to roam together in laughter and I think of her, so far away and otherwise engaged. I miss her….and I hope not for much longer now….

Sunday, February 7, 2010

"GETTING OLDER WHILE GETTING YOUNGER" by Heloise

In today's world if you are over 50 you need to get an avatar.
The technology of today is growing more sophisticated minute by minute and it is a major challenge.

Just ten years ago if you were looking for a job, you would call a real person who would actually speak to you. You would then use the only piece of technical equipment on your desk, the fax machine, to send your resume to that person or you would mail it. A week later you could call, you may not get the interview or the job but at least you were not ignored.
Fast forward to today. Humans no longer exist you must do your job searching on one of the many sites, whether job sites or social sites. You think you are applying for employment, but most likely will immediately start being bombarded with offers from non-humans from re-doing your resume for a price, to being asked to throw a fist full of money to one of the rabbits that promise to post your resume on over 1000 sites at once.

If your experience is in clothing like mine you watch the jobs and companies disappear, while you watch e-commerce grow larger by the day. I, of course, know enough about computers to buy on these sites, but I now have to face the new challenge of learning how to sell a product on an e commerce site.

I had my first interview for employment on an e-commerce site recently, and once I got pass the fact that the owners and staff were all younger then my children, which is a humbling experience, you realize how exciting this type of retailing can be.
I must learn the new technology by getting younger in my thinking. It was a positive interview, and this time I met real humans, not machines something that has not happen in a while.
I do not know if a job offer will come from it, but I will hope so.
In the meantime to all of us women of a certain age, with working experiences that often do not translate to today's world, take heart,we can continue to fight age, we will color our hair, get botox, social network, and learn not to be afraid of computers.
We will learn new technology, and we will be our own avatars in this new world.

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